Complete Symptom Guide to Menopause Low Confidence | Stella

Menopause and low confidence

 

You weren’t born not liking yourself. In fact, it’s only when you begin to realise that the outside world has opinions that you start to judge yourself. It’s natural for many women to feel like strangers in their own bodies or to find themselves questioning their identity, decisions and competence during menopause.

LOW CONFIDENCE DEFINITION

Low self-esteem or low confidence is when you lack confidence in yourself – who you are and what you can do. You often have a negative perception of your self-worth and perceived value. It can affect your mood, relationships, home life and work.

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HOW LIKELY IS LOW CONFIDENCE?

Low confidence can impact anyone at any age but can be particularly pervasive in menopause. It’s difficult to put an exact figure on it, but:

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SIGNS OF LOW CONFIDENCE IN MENOPAUSE

Using self-deprecating humour or joking negatively about yourself

Focusing on the negatives and ignoring your strengths and achievements

Blaming yourself when things go wrong

Thinking that you are undeserving, for example feeling you don’t deserve to have fun or get a promotion

Difficulty accepting compliments and easily hurt by criticism

Avoiding going out of your comfort zone or taking risks – fear of failure

Hypersensitive to disapproval or criticism

Negative comparison of self against others

Lack of confidence or difficulty in making decisions

HOW CAN YOU EASE LOW CONFIDENCE SYMPTOMS?

Unlike some physical symptoms of menopause, low confidence and self-esteem cannot be so easily fixed with creams or medicines. It takes time and energy but can be a unique opportunity to make positive changes. No one chooses to go through menopause, and while you might not always feel ready to embrace change, it can be a great opportunity to rethink your life and direction.

Build a new narrative of yourself

Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is a helpful method of identifying thought patterns and how they impact your emotions and behaviors. Another way of shifting negative self-talk is to remind yourself of the things that you like and value by asking yourself:

  • What is something that you love about yourself?
  • What is something that you appreciate about yourself?
  • What is something that others recognize you for?
  • What are some of your other outstanding qualities?

Test your perception

Perception is powerful and can play a big role in self-esteem. When you next go out, imagine that the first three people you interact with think you are absolutely amazing. What does this do to your posture and how you hold your body? How do you feel about yourself? Then imagine that the next three people you interact with think you are incapable or inadequate. What does this do to your mood? How secure do you feel? This exercise helps to highlight how powerful your sense of perception is and how it can affect your mood.

Promote more positive thoughts

When you look in the mirror, you may see yourself through the eyes of other people. Next time you look in the mirror, give yourself a big smile. Compliment yourself and flirt with yourself. This might feel silly at first but it is a simple way of challenging narratives and promoting positive and conscious thoughts. Most people initially go to their flaws rather than strengths and that is okay. Acknowledge any negative thoughts and push them away.

Prioritise self-care

Self-care is important for a healthy relationship with yourself. Take this as your cue to slow down and remind yourself of what is important…YOU. Between work, family and other obligations, you can often forget the importance of taking time to check in with how you are feeling. Set aside 15-30 minutes to remind yourself that you are capable and worthy.

Say no to the things that don’t serve you

Doing more activities that you love and resonate with your values can help bolster your self-esteem. When you spend all of your energy trying to make others happy, you send yourself a message that you’re less important.

Consider taking a social media break

Social media can prompt further comparisons between yourself and others – heightening feelings of inadequacy. Try taking a break from social media, even for just a day and notice how you feel. 

Ditch the perfectionist mindset

We all make mistakes from time to time – we’re human. Often when you have low self-esteem, you don’t give yourself permission to make mistakes. Mistakes are normal – try viewing them as an opportunity for growth instead of a justification for a lack of self-love.

Balance your lifestyle

Don’t underestimate the power of exercising regularly, eating well, and getting plenty of sleep – it can do wonders for your self-esteem.


Would hormone replace therapy (HRT) help?

It might. HRT is known to improve mood, sleep and hot flushes during menopause. However, HRT comes with risks and is not suitable for everyone. Speak to your doctor about your personal treatment options.

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LOW CONFIDENCE AND MENOPAUSE FAQs

As with most menopause symptoms, loss of confidence may result from reduced levels of oestrogen and possibly testosterone. Life events, family changes, relationships and work issues can also have an impact, along with the physical changes of ageing. These factors may be either directly or indirectly related to the menopause.

Loss of confidence and self-esteem can happen at any stage during your menopause journey.

Suffering from low self-esteem can be a source of shame for many women, but remind yourself that this is not unusual, nor do you need to suffer in silence. Don’t be afraid to reach out for help, talk to your doctor,  a psychologist or even just a family member or friend.

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